Making Mornings Series: #1 Making Mornings Beautiful

Background:
What this really is about is a series of writings you can pin up on a board or screen each Monday morning to take you through the week. It’s amazing how much you can create, the magic you can accomplish by making the choice to choose each moment starting from every Monday and every morning, to be the present moment in that you will live your life differently. It’s a moment by moment choice and some reminders do help. While I have not formatted it into a poster as such (*LMM WIP idea), I would like to do a 10 part series and see where that takes me.
A friend wanted to fill a whiteboard with inspirational messages. And I imagine that each weekend, the board would get wiped clean and a new message goes up.

Each time it’s wiped clean, it’s a new opportunity to create something new in that space, just like each morning. So here goes, a 10 part series, posted weekly – on “what will you make of your mornings, and the start of your day?”

#1: Making Mornings Beautiful
Beauty uplifts the spirits. Your definition of a beautiful morning may be different from mine. I like sunlight & flowers at the window. Your may like the cool dark dawn. Others may like certain music, or the smell of coffee, or the laughter of their kids.
A morning is made beautiful by activating your senses to something you like, that refreshes and uplifts. Learning to make mornings beautiful means learning to be aware of what lifts your senses, incorporating that one change into your morning ritual, and learning to see the beauty of everything else around you.
Would that be a great way to start the day, with just that one difference?

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If I were a person of joy, I would act as such

One of my yearly themes this year is about fun, though for the last few weeks everything seems to be working in a direction that is .. not fun, not very joyful.  What would it take for a little joy?  I start the morning hopeful and ended a little blah by evening.

Sometimes things do get overwhelming.  With a full-time job, two young kids, crazy schedules, a weaker immune system and everything else in between, living fun or having joy, seemed a far out task.

Yet, I can’t be the only one overwhelmed at various points in life. 

And if so, then how would someone living from joy, act?

If I am living from joy today (just today), how would I walk, talk and move? How will I brush my teeth or comb my hair? 

If I am living from joy today (just today), how would I turn the key, type on the keyboard, talk to my kids, nod to the passerby?

If I am living from joy today (just today), how would I flip the book, eat my lunch, drink my water, stir the tea?

If I am living from joy today (just today), how would I react to the next email, the next assignment, the next phone call?

And then repeat it tomorrow.

And replace the word joy with fun, or wholeheartedness, or inspired, or inspiring, or passionate, or compassionate, or vulnerable, or alive.

Watch what happens.

Relax: If you can’t control it, you can’t screw it up

Sometimes I think we get it the wrong way round, we think that we can’t screw it up as long we don’t control it. So we conclude that the best way is to take an either-or stance: to either control everything or to give up and decide that by not taking part (ie. not controlling anything intentionally), nothing can be considered to be screwed up by us.

A round-a-bout way of thinking, no doubt, and one that makes me suspicious because it (seemingly) creates only two options. This, or that, and nothing in between.  What I have discovered living on both ends was that there was always something missing.

Taking the Either-Or Stance

We try to control everything so nothing screws up.  And very quickly, we learn that a lot of things are out of our control, how others think, respond, the nature, environment around us.

So we move to the other end, and decided that it’s best to not take part, not control anything, so that in that way, we can’t be said to have (actually) screwed up anything.  Life starts to be lived on default, and because life moves on and we are relinquish our need to make decisions, we wonder why things seem to keep “happening to us”.

Getting the Order Right

For the things we can control, we show up wholeheartedly.  For things we can’t control – relax, because we can’t screw it up.  It is what it is – we can’t make it something it is not.

We can however, control how we are, think, respond or react, and most importantly, what we can create.

So relax. When we are spending energy controlling something external of us or worrying about screwing up, we are wasting that energy to otherwise create something worthy to call our own.

Now relax.  Release the tension, flow into ease, and watch how much more you can create.

Deliver Compassion

Tis the fourth day of the Lunar New Year, Year of the Horse.  Eleven more days to go in celebrations.

Well, work has started and another new week.  I’d love to bounce out of bed, all excited and raring to go. Some days though, it is a more subdued variation.   I don’t think that is uncommon.

That said, while it’s a period of celebration in the Lunar New Year, I’ve also received sad news from friends around me.  My first reaction is anger, indignation and a need to lash out.  But each morning I wake up, I get to make a different choice.  In each moment even, I get to make a different choice.

Deliver Compassion

In considering my response, I landed on compassion. When the kneejerk response is anger, the healing response is compassion.  When the natural tendency is to play the victim, the call to action is to play the higher game.

It is not easy. Just in the next breath, it’s easy to find reasons on why compassion should be withheld.

So what is it worth?

It’s worth the Good Fight, to break the cycle of anger and fear.

It’s worth the depths of love that can be created.

It means forgiveness is in order.

It means believing in yourself that you have the strength to play the bigger game.

It also means making mistakes, but treating yourself gently when you do.

And because it’s Monday, and because it’s a new morning, new day, new week, new moment.  Will your choice be compassion?

Goal Setting in 2014 & Loving Monday Mornings

I spoke on this recently.  Each year or stated time frame, we set certain goals.  It’s easy to make goals, not so easy to keep them.

The tricky part, is about building on these goals, taking steps to progress forward towards the intended results, day by day.  It’s about the staying the course, and despite the easiest of goals, we sometimes get caught up with everything less important.  Things crop up, stuff happens, one day goes by and we think it’s okay to just let it be, and another day goes by.  Before we know it, a week, month and a year is over, and we “transfer” our goals to the following year, in the hope of doing it better.

Hope probably isn’t getting us anywhere.  But what has Loving Monday Mornings got to do with it?

Can you visualize it?

If I asked you what would it take so that you would get out of bed on a Monday morning, excited and grateful for the day – given the space to dream, you might have an idea of the things you would do for the day, what your room will look like, what your morning will look like.

The simple truth is that if you can’t visualize what a great start to a great day would look like, you can’t visualize yourself achieving your goals.  And when the going gets tough, how can you remember why you do what you do to take daily steps towards your goals?

Can you say it?

Amongst all the list of goals, what are 2 – 3 words that you can attach to it?  These are themes or keywords to trigger the original motivations or inspiration of the goals.  Every morning and anytime you need a reminder, it probably would not make any sense to run through the list of the goals line by line.  But with the 2 – 3 word themes – inspiration, action, health, well-being, love, passion, fun, wholeheartedness etc. – these can be recalled easily and serve as one-word mantras to propel you forward when it feels like you’re swimming against currents.

Mine for 2014 are inspiration, fun, wholeheartedness.  What is yours?

Can you feel inspired?

When days get rough and the days call upon you to draw inspiration, would the well be dry?  Reading daily (biographies or inspired authors), even for 5 pages a day, means a daily deposit into the bank of inspiration.  The bank is not necessary on times when the mornings and days feel great, but are often neglected during the times when the mornings and days feel dreary, which coincidentally are times when they are needed the most.

I’ve read Michael Jordan’s the last three months.  And now, have books Saint Germain and the Dalai Lama lined up.  Authors I fall back on for inspiration belong to a wide range (which I will write more about in the Build My Library section), but to name a few quickly: Paulo Coelho, Mitch Albom, Wayne Dyer, Napoleon Hill, Deepak Chopra, Robin Sharma etc.

Along with that, get a favourite music playlist in easy access.  Music, favourite music (of which I go through phases as anyone else does), picks me up whenever I need it and whenever I play it.

Is it worth it?

For whom are your goals being set?  This is different from setting your goals because someone else things you should.  This is about looking at how big your goal is.  Is the goal selfish, or does it serve others? Does it make you bigger than you so that you may serve others – your kids, your parents, your family, you friends, your neighbors, your students, your colleagues, your bosses?

Setting goals and keeping goals means making a little progress on it every single day

Progress doesn’t mean we ‘win’ every day at the goal, sometimes we make mistakes.  But progress means we move ahead, we figure out what works and what doesn’t work, but we don’t. stop. moving. forward.

And loving Monday mornings, loving what you do, doing what you love, loving your goals and every step you take in it, is what a great day is all about.  And when you look back to the year, you will have great stories to tell of the goals that you achieved and the miracles you created along the way.  Enjoy the journey and enjoy your morning.